For those of us who aren’t feeling like Little Miss Sunshine, the “fake it till you make it” technique can help.
We don’t normally associate “menopause” with “pleasure.” Unless, of course, you think an emotional rollercoaster that you can’t get off of is actually fun.
Well, Dr. Christiane Northrup is here with a mission: to share with all us gals all the things that can go right during menopause. Dr. Northrup is an expert in this field. We can trust her.
She says that women over 50 are just hitting their stride, finding their voice and becoming a lot more assertive about their needs.
And that includes sex and pleasure, too. Here’s what she tells us about a little thing called nitric oxide. No, not nitrous oxide (that’s laughing gas). Nitric oxide is what triggers pleasure.
You can turn yourself on,” she tells women approaching midlife. “You can rewire your brain and your body to feel more pleasure. The brain is the biggest sex organ in the body.”
Getting to all this pleasure, she says, depends on paying attention to your nitric oxide levels, which she’ll bet are probably too low.
Nitric what? Many midlife women may never have thought about — or heard about — nitric oxide.
Nitric oxide is a colorless, odorless gas that tells blood vessels to relax and to widen, in turn resulting in a lowering of blood pressure. Discoveries about nitric oxide that led to the development of the ED drug Viagra earned three scientists a Nobel Prize a decade ago.
Although it’s the stuff by which erectile dysfunction (ED) drugs work, it’s not the exclusive domain of men, Northrup says. (Indeed, one of the 1998 Nobel recipients, Ferid Murad, MD, co-wrote a book, The WellnessSolution, published in 2006, promoting a regimen of diet, exercise, vitamins, and antioxidants that works by increasing nitric oxide levels.)
Northrup says it’s time midlife women discovered the benefits of boosting nitric oxide levels as their own gateway to better sexuality and sensuality at midlife and beyond.
“Most of us don’t produce enough to keep us vibrantly healthy,” she says.
Practicing her suggestions will boost levels, she says. Simply thinking joyous thoughts can boost it, she claims. “A joyous thought would be: ‘The best times of my life are yet to come.'”
Boosting nitric oxide can also be accomplished by exercising regularly, meditating, and having sex regularly, she says.
So according to Dr. Northrup, who is a recognized effort- it might be as simple as thinking happy thoughts. For those of us who aren’t feeling like Little Miss Sunshine, the “fake it till you make it” technique can help. Even on your worst days, try to find ways to focus on the positive. That may sound trite, but it really does work. I try to find something, just one thing to be thankful for and excited about every single day.
I’m happy that the barista got my coffee order right the first time. I’m happy that my daughter gave me an extra hug this morning, just because. I’m happy because I am a powerful, wise, amazing woman with so much to give.
According to Dr. Northrup, all these happy thoughts are going to put me in the mood and heighten my pleasure. I’m willing to try it. What about you?