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My Friend, Fuzzy-Brained Forgetfulness

My Friend, Fuzzy-Brained Forgetfulness
Menopause has stolen all my remaining marbles.

“What’s up with what’s-her-name?”

I utter this phrase a lot lately. “What’s her name” or “what’s his name” isn’t some lost friend I haven’t seen in years. No, this phrase is my new menopausal, discombobulated, confused term of endearment for my dear loved ones including my children, grandchildren, close friends, my husband, and the dog.

After the evil menopausal dwarfs itchy, bitchy, sweaty, bloaty, and insomnia are through with you, here comes our friend, forgetful.

Remember those crazy hormones that came to visit just before and after giving birth that gave you a fuzzy brain and made you feel like an idiot as a new mother? In Jack Nicholson’s voice from The Shining, “They’re back!” And back with a vengeance.

Menopause has stolen all my remaining marbles.

“Don’t forget to throw the towels in the …. YOU KNOW … that thing where we clean dirty laundry.” Okay, this happens only occasionally, but still it happens.

Hard to believe that once I was the queen of multi-tasking. Now I need a to-do list for everything and anything. My refrigerator is covered in sticky notes reminding me to brush my teeth, turn off the stove, flush the toilet, and breathe. If there was only a sticky note to remind me where my mind went, I could function.

Yup, my memory cells have packed up their little bags and marched off toward extinction like those squirrels that leap off cliffs. Or is it lemmings that do that? I can’t remember.

Anyhow, the good news is that researchers have discovered that our lack of concentration, forgetfulness, and memory lapses is not just in our heads.

At an international conference of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine in Boston, Professor Martha Hickey with the Melbourne University explained that there is increasing evidence that women’s concentration levels, memory, and ability to carry out tasks drop by as much as 40 per cent when they go through the change.

As many as four in ten women could be affected, and many find it increasingly difficult to do their jobs or go about daily routines, the research showed.

Whew! It’s not just me.

Some studies show that stress – and give me a break, what menopausal women doesn’t experience stress – can also play a part in memory loss. Evidently when your body enters “fight or flight” mode, your memory is one of the first things your mind ditches. Your memory cells march off toward extinction like those chipmunks that leap off cliffs. Was it chipmunks? I mean, lemmings. Did I already use this analogy?

Anyhow, as we all know, insomnia doesn’t help this fuzzy brain situation either. Of course, when we’re sleep deprived, our brains are unable to work at full capacity. You know what I mean. Remember those first couple years after your children were born and you never got any sleep? No? How about those nights before a big project is due, when you pulled the “all-nighters” you were famous for? That’s what I’m talking about!

I don’t have any great solutions that will dissolve this fog bank we find ourselves in, but the good news is that the effects are unlikely to be permanent.

By the way, did I save this document yet?

Baby boomers who want to learn more about finding their bliss, can visit Julie’s blog at    

About Julie Gorges

Julie Gorges enjoys writing as a creative way to express her feelings, share her warped sense of humor, bare her soul, and hopefully inspire and educate her readers on important subjects like menopause mania. She's the author of three books, has had hundreds of articles published in magazines and newspapers, and won three journalism awards while working as a newspaper reporter. You can enjoy Julie's own blog at


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