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It’s not just hormones! Check out your forecast for the month, and, for birthday girls, you’ll find your special spotlight horoscope, too. Have a little fun, check out what our resident Astrologist sees coming your way this month! Just scroll down the page to see what’s been posted.

AstroFlash – June, 2016

AstroFlash – June, 2016

Everyone's acting hormonal, men included.

AstroFlash June 2016
Weirdsville June 1-23
What’s This? Solid Ground? June 26
Bliss Out June 27

Look at June as a carnival funhouse. If only it were just your environment. The catch is, there’s one inside of you as well. Remember, you will eventually find the exit, even if you can’t see it until it’s right in front of your face. Until then …

Are you all over the map?! ADD, OCD, turbocharged, hyper-productive, confused, at peace, overwhelmed, stretched beyond your limits, exhausted yet trucking on, stressed out, freaked out, blissed out — sometimes in rapid succession, sometimes in one confounding tossed salad of emotions and reactions.

Go easy on yourself, and other people, too. No one is exempt. Everyone’s acting hormonal, men included.

Here’s how this wackiness benefits you:
1. You’re off the hook, because you can’t do everything or  force anything.
2. You’ll instinctively gravitate to what’s most important.
3. Other people will deal with their own whatever, or not, no skin off your nose for a change (spouses and children included).
4. You’ll get a peak or two behind the curtain.
5. Bonus for creatives: the potential for artistic productivity and success is off the charts.

The best way through it?  Surrendering, for starters.  And keeping focus on your body’s needs (sleep, food, tender touch) and mundane, physical details, like doing dishes, staying on top of bills and clearing clutter off your floors, dining table, bathroom counter and desk now and again.

As the month floats toward a close, a growing sense of stabilization joins the tossed salad. This ingredient stays on when the rest of the bowl is dumped into the trash (though the memories and gifts of the rest will remain). Keep tissues on hand for the 27th, when hearts blow open and tears may flow. In a good way.

AstroFlash – April, 2016

AstroFlash – April, 2016

…And give slack generously. Everyone’s a bit off right now. Men included.

Power Surges April 4-9
Avoid Sharp Objects April 4-9, 22-24
She’s Gotta Have It April 12, 19, 29
This Again? April 17-30
Talk & Travel Advisory April 28-30

You can’t blame this month on menopause. People who have no prior history of hormonally-charged outbursts — even those blessed-among-women-of-you out there — are gonna be acting out like toddlers. Or women of a certain age, under a certain influence. Primal, dramatic impulses are all the rage:  Flying off the handle. Screaming until hoarse. Erupting with frustration, fury, that-does-it outbursts, and then Doing Something About It. Taking humongous risks in a split-second and then wondering why they waited so long.

A pressure cooker is exploding that’s been building steam for months, probably years. This is good news.  With insistent and ferocious volatility like this, staying stuck is impossible. The aftermath will feel like you’ve been sprung from jail, though it may take a while for your nerves and blood pressure to settle.

Besides, you’ll have ample opportunity to take another look around and tweak your big, bold moves. From the 17th on opportunities for cosmic do-overs come in ever-increasing waves.  Well, maybe not so much do over entirely as ask questions, think through the operating assumptions, and nail down issues of training or legalities.

Some of these chances may come in disguise, of course, like tripping on a shoelace that’s come loose, or breaking a heel. All these little irritants have a silver lining, and not just to provide a safe target for all the …. fieriness surging within you.

And speaking of irritation, month’s end brings everybody’s favorite cosmic visitor (not!). Yes, it’s time once again for another Talk and Travel Weirdness Advisory.  From April 28 – May 22, the cosmic messenger Mercury will be retrograde, a time when the normal rules of operation go out the window for communicating and getting around.  Demons possess technology; messages get garbled; traffic snarls; misunderstandings abound.  This particular installment will make time feel slower than slow. That’s great for savoring experiences (there will be some you’ll want to prolong this month) (no, seriously, there will), but annoying when you’re on a mission.

No freak-outs, please. Be proactive and prepared.  Double-check information. Make notes and lists like crazy. Follow up if calls, texts or email go unanswered. Allow scads of time for getting around. Look for opportunities to back track, pick up dropped information and clean up some old business. And give slack generously. Everyone’s a bit off right now. Men included.

(Bite your tongue!)

Astroflash- February, 2016

Astroflash- February, 2016

Your reward at month’s end: long bubble baths, bingeing on chick flicks and floating off in your own fantasy, private or duo.

Three Truffles Minimum: Feb. 5
Ask For What You Want (But Avoid Sharp Objects): Feb 5-7
Fish or Cut Bait: Feb. 13
Tub Time:  Feb. 19, 26, 28

And, just when you had given up on your brain ever returning, there it is.  Bringing a burning awareness of what you want, crave, gotta have, no matter what. Woe to anyone or anything that gets in your way, especially in the first third of the month. No waiting around for Valentine’s Day and hoping a certain someone reads your mind and delivers a prized goodie. Godiva assortments, a Michael Kors bag, your secret obsession or some more … physical, shall we say, object of desire. You’re helping yourself to it in advance of that minefield of a holiday, and kicking down walls, barriers or viewpoints that interfere.

Once you actually allow yourself to want, then allow yourself to have, a blockage uncorks. Why stop with a new leather bag? Why not upgrade your car as well? Or, okay, more realistically, simply allow yourself to enjoy being in a body again. No matter what its current condition. This isn’t the onset of second childhood madness. It’s reclaiming your life, and every act of dominion and devil-may-care enjoyment grounds you more and more in the here and now.  Cosmic bonus: Doing this assists in pulling a dream or two down to earth as well. Park your cynicism and see.

Even a newly revived woman can keep up this emotional intensity for only so long, and then it lets up. Lightening up happens after Valentine’s, when your mind regains its top running speed. Your druthers shift to hanging out with pals and looking at much in your life from the distance of that 10-foot pole everyone used to invoke. When the spring cleaning urge arrives three weeks ahead of schedule, give in to it. Your reward at month’s end: long bubble baths, bingeing on chick flicks and floating off in your own fantasy, private or duo.  And while you’re off in your personal flavor of la-la land, don’t be disturbed at that creaking sound. It’s only a door opening onto one of those first-of-the-month desires showing up for real. For a pleasant change.

 

AstroFlash – January, 2016

AstroFlash – January, 2016

"You have a superpower at your disposal. Call it a Spidey sense or heightened intuition...you've got access to an ability to feel your way through the fog that borders on sonar.

Fog Advisory: All Month Long
Talk & Travel Weirdness: Jan. 5-25
Big Girl Panties On: Jan. 8
Light Bulbs Pop: Jan. 20, 31
She’s Gotta Have It:  Jan. 18, 23-31

This month will have you wondering if your brain got thrown out with the holiday wrapping. No such luck. Hormones aren’t to blame, either. (Much.) The skies are sending out a double-whammy that guarantees spaciness, confusion and reasons to question sanity. Whammy the first: the cosmic fog machine, on high 24/7, with the off switch disabled until summer. Whammy the second: the fun and games known as Mercury retrograde, from Jan. 5 – 25, when gab, gadgets and getting around replace their usual rules of operation with something closer to roulette.  (More about this at the bottom.)

The good news? (Hear me out.) You’ve got company aplenty.  No one is immune to this brain fog, not no one, not no how. It’s not necessarily unpleasant, either. At times it may be a hoot, even, with the goofy buzz that usually comes from really good painkillers. Plus, you have a superpower at your disposal. Call it a Spidey sense or heightened intuition or paranoia that turns out to be on to something major; you’ve got access to an ability to feel your way through the fog that borders on sonar. Use that and the whereabouts of your mind won’t matter so much. It can’t really help much with the fog, anyway.

On those occasions when your brain does surface, occupy it with pre-spring cleaning (think: tidying up before the housekeeper arrives.) Review, rethink and reorganize any systems that go haywire now, not to mention the small stuff that’s always tripping you up. Don’t tempt fate, though. Hold off introducing new elements until the end of the month, when only one whammy is in effect.

All the confusion and disorientation have a surprising kicker. You’re making progress with long-term value, just without the usual fuss and bother — or, at times, any earthly idea where you’re heading. Your heart and inner GPS have a clue, though. Your mind gets a glimmer of it around the 20th. It’s crystal clear by month’s end.  Good timing, too. A path is opening for a dream to come down into reality. You wouldn’t want your mind to get in the way.

Talk and Travel Weirdness Advisory:  The year’s first communication-caution time (aka the dreaded Mercury retrograde). runs January 5 -25, but the advisory holds until the planet starts moving noticeably on the 28th.  Demons possess technology; messages get garbled; traffic snarls; misunderstandings abound  — and the fog will make it harder than usual to wise up to them. No freak-outs, please. Be proactive and prepared.  Double-check information. Make notes and lists like crazy. Follow up if calls, texts or email go unanswered. Allow scads of time for getting around. Look for opportunities to back track, pick up dropped information and clean up some old business. And give slack generously. Everyone’s mind’s a bit off right now.

To learn what 2016 holds in store, order Kathy’s astro-overview mp3.

Astroflash- December

Astroflash- December

Hormonal surges? Pent up frustration and anger? Why, yes, they’ll do nicely as fuel; about time something useful came from them.

Power Surge: Dec. 1-10
Avoid Sharp Objects: Dec: 6, 10
Wine? Yes, Please: Dec. 11
Big Girl Panty Time: Dec. 14
Diet, Schmiet: Dec. 24-25

Remember Rosie the Riveter? The iconic WWII factory worker flexing her arm muscle beneath the slogan “We Can Do It”? She’s your role model the first half of December. This time it’s more than the usual frenzy of holiday prep and wrapping up the year. This one comes with super-hero-level determination to push unfinished business forward, and probably shove some folks along, too.

It’s enough to leave you exhausted and whimpering in the kitchen while everyone around you is making Hallmark memories. That’s so not you now, though. Summon your inner Rosie and channel the pressures (largely self-imposed, ahem) into phenomenal productivity.  Hormonal surges? Pent up frustration and anger? Why, yes, they’ll do nicely as fuel; about time something useful came from them.

No silent suffering, either. Speak up, delegate and drop the topic. The stars have something quite other than micro-managing in store. Cosmic hands are on your back propelling you into a different paradigm for everything from relationship ground rules to traditions to long-term goals to the very foundation of your life. Turns out old dogs can learn new tricks, and you’ll be breaking them in like crazy.

That you’re in that process will dawn on you in the month’s second half, when you get to go to your own party for a change. Mommy Moon (aka a full moon in Cancer) rules the roost at Christmas. Whether you celebrate or not, the days around it promise to be more sweet and cozy than the whirlwind leading to it will have you believe.

This year’s magic comes with the awareness that it is fleeting, and not just because Seals & Crofts’ “We May Never Pass This Way Again” keeps slipping into the holiday playlist.  An era is ending. Enjoy its last hurrah. Celebrate it. Sort through it and decide what bits to carry with you when the clock strikes midnight on the 31st. Toast the old and then the new. Throw in a toast for Rosie while you’re at it.

 

 

Spotlight on Scorpio, 2015

Spotlight on Scorpio, 2015

Handle what you can for now, and keep your eye on the long term. At least, into March.

Fussbudget Frenzy Nov. 1 – 5
Danger, Will Robinson! Nov. 20-27
Big Girl Panties ON! Nov. 24
Salute Yourself  Nov. 29

Didn’t we just get through with back-to-school? That’s what the calendar says, but here you are again, making plans, lists and supply runs against some deadline invisible to the rest of us. The secret is:  You aren’t the only one. Everyone’s going into November on mental overdrive:  analyzing, criticizing, fixing, scheming and teaming.

The reason isn’t just the onset of Impending Holiday Panic. Recognizable developments are emerging from the cosmic rubble at last. They’re inspiring us to clear room for them, work on them and identify people with something useful for them. True, some of these developments are taking shape with the speed of fish coming ashore and sprouting feet.  The slow roll-out allows you time to wrap your head around them and get ready. Handle what you can for now, and keep your eye on the long term. At least, into March.

You aren’t going it alone, either. Relationships are coming along for the ride, and in for evolving, too. You can minimize the bumpiness by setting clear boundaries and minding your own business. Even when you know best. Even with your husband. (Especially with your husband.) This does not mean being quiet (yeah, right!), but being judicious. And maybe a little canny. At least until the 20th, this is the month to bring up topics you normally skirt: debt load, aging parents, your own retirement planning and mortality, betrayal and s-e-x. Nonverbal cues and communication will speak louder than words or expressions. Trust your gut.

After the 20th, switch to smiling and steering conversations away from danger zones. The most turbulent stretch of the ride falls, lucky us, smack during Thanksgiving week. Evolution will lurch forward, like it or not. Unavoidable pressure is bearing down on traditions, patterns, systems and family structures, whether blood or chosen.  Too much togetherness — well, any togetherness, at some points during this stretch — will send even the most devoted moms running  from the house.

But not you. You will have contingency plans in place. And a private stash of whatever it takes to get you through this: wine, chocolate, bubble bath, more wine. Keep your eye on those slowly emerging developments that inspired your fussbudgetry at month’s start. Guard and protect them, with the detachment of Mr. Spock. They stand to benefit, improve and flourish from whatever shifts, collapses or breaks open Thanksgiving week. (Any of which could be welcome. Enjoyable, too. Seriously.)

Be an advocate for evolution. Be the adult in the room. Be the voice of sanity that declares topics off-limits. Or decides that there is no time to make three different pies, one of which no one really eats anyway, so Thanksgiving dinner will have only one pie this year. Or asks, yea even assigns, other people to shoulder responsibility for dishes, clean up and weekend activities.

Whatever the framework — family gatherings, get-togethers with friends, private time one-on-one, pretty much any situation in your life at this point, actually — “That’s the way we’ve always done it” doesn’t cut it anymore. So come up with a different way. Then toast the milestone in your own evolution.  By yourself or with others; your call. It’s your life, after all. And that notion is starting to sink in, good.

Spotlight On Scorpio – 2015

Spotlight On Scorpio – 2015

October  23 - November 21    "The true bottom line is not your bank balance...it's your self-worth."

Your Spidey sense has been tingling with signals that this year could be easier than the last few. That spine-crushing pressure you’ve been enduring has lifted. You’re relaxing like never before into sharing yourself with other humans, sibs included. You’ve been piling up beaucoups of older-and-wiser cred, and you’re itching to start cashing it in.

The signals you’re picking up are right on the money.  You are indeed in for one of the most freeing and rewarding years in recent memory. And all of those signals are part of why.

The biggest growth potential comes from letting the rest of us know more of what’s going on in your head. If you can let your clutches up on that trademark privacy, more disclosure will reveal its benefits. Its increasingly tangible, yea even financial benefits. Ah. That got your attention.

You’ve got a cosmic formula for making a dream come true this year — not in your mind while you’re soaking in the tub, or driving to work, or trying to blot out the latest jolt to your body. (More on that it a sec.) But for real, tangibly, out here where you can touch and trust it.  Maybe it’s polishing your unique voice, building a podium and finding the audience. (Show of hands: Who’s got a novel on a hard drive?) Maybe it’s structuring time for vacations and art classes. Maybe it’s giving romance another whirl, even at this point in life. Whatever form the development takes, it’s been in the works for years. Capitalizing on it does not require a personality transplant. You can still hold some of your cards close. Just lay more of them on the table. The circles you run in (friends, homeowners’ associations, online groups) have people positioned to be uncommonly helpful and supportive. Take constructive criticism as sign of loyalty. Dip into your innate patience and tenacity, too. Like all enduring construction, this one takes time to build. The rollout runs from fall 2015 through early next summer.

While the concrete and paint dry on your dream, your schedule continues to be as whackadoodle as your energy levels — and, on some days, your relationship with your body. Alas, stability and certainty are just not in the stars for the foreseeable future. (Do. Not. Kill. The. Messenger.)  Your firmest intentions are no match for the twists and turns disrupting your job demands, eating and exercise habits,  and, big surprise, health. Add to that instability the anxiety, excitement, power surges or undefinable jitteriness periodically zipping through you like an electrical current. They’re motivating, irritating, and sometimes debilitating, thwarting plans like an angry kid upending a game board.

You’re no victim; nope, not you. Ante up some of that older-and-wiser cred and work it. Be who and do whatever you damn well feel like. Make life up as you go along. (Eating Paleo at breakfast and going vegan by sundown? Ain’t nobody’s business if you do.) And view those electrical impulses as an annoying but well-intended friend. Use them as fuel for speed demon productivity. Or take a time out and disperse them. (Play superhero and imagine them zooming out of your palms and feet.) Or use them as an excuse to escape something you didn’t want to do anyway (shhhhhh).

As for other blips and bumps that may lie ahead, they’re peanuts compared to what has tripped you up in recent years. The one area of concern is near and dear to your heart, which is to say, your wallet. Whether it’s tight or not. money does require extra special attention these days. The true bottom line is not your bank balance, though. It’s your self-worth. Commit to that and many issues that present as  about money will turn out to be about something else. (Mark March for this, when your radar will be more reliable than other people’s words.)

A great year ahead for you, Scorpio!

AstroFlash- October, 2015

AstroFlash- October, 2015

The old selfish is the new healthy. Keep your energy for yourself.

Talk & Travel Advisory: Oct. 1-9
Where’d My Brain Go? Oct. 6, 16, 18
Just Say No: Oct. 10
Resistance Is Futile:  Oct. 23
Halloween Candy At Risk: Oct. 23-31

Who has the time to put up fake harvest tableaux and Halloween geegaws? Not you. Not unless they make you insanely happy. This month is more about cleaning than cluttering. More snapping Lego blocks together than stumbling on them when you get up to go to the bathroom during the night. More Disney princesses than vampires that actually draw blood.

Besides, life is finally feeling like it’s getting somewhere. Instead of depositing you in a minefield or flinging you into a wall, effort is now yielding … results. You don’t need a cosmic cattle prod for motivation anymore, either. As projects and situations take shape that have been in the works for months or longer, that’s carrot enough to keep applying elbow grease.

Just not on other people. Sure, you see room for improvement in your relatives, but don’t make that your job. A new chapter in all your relationships is starting mid-month. The old selfish is the new healthy. Keep your energy for yourself. Handle your side of the relationship see-saw and the other person will handle his. Eventually. His problem, not yours.

There will still be moments of crossed wires, wonky technology, traffic that makes no sense and space cadet behavior. These are constants until the talk and travel advisory lifts on the 10th, after which they fade in and out like radio signals on a road trip.

As Halloween approaches, something’s noticeably on the prowl, and not the usual spooks and ghouls and trick or treaters. Desires. Huge. Irresistible. Heavy on ones you’d usually keep on the down low. Fighting them is just not in the stars, so you may as well indulge. Tip for party-planners: Pick the weekend before Halloween if intrigue and a frisson of danger are what you want. Prefer costumes and fantasy? Schedule your do on the night itself.  It has a gentle air of  escapism and magic. Just keep a designated driver at hand. Or a taxi number. With the workout your elbow’s been getting all month, you’re likely not to keep track of how much you’re bending it on Halloween.

Spotlight on Libra – 2015

Spotlight on Libra – 2015

September 23 - October 23

Upheaval can go on for just so long before it starts feeling normal. That’s one of this year’s gifts for you, Libra, and with sugar on top. The roller coaster ride that’s been masquerading as your marriage and home life? You’re getting the hang of it. Wising up to how it frees you, even. And when you loosen your vise-like grip (what, you? controlling? c’mon, that smile isn’t fooling anyone), when you let your arms fly above your head, lo and behold: The track smooths out. Again and again and again.

Also making the ride more comfortable is the cosmic night light that’s beaming gentle reassurance and optimism into your very cells, night and day, no matter what. (That’s another one of this year’s gifts.) The bulb’s long-life, guaranteed to shine into next September. Its glow will entice you to disconnect from the daily grind and rest, regroup and recharge. For yourself, on your own terms.

Those concepts — for yourself, on your own terms — are a pivotal plot driver this fall. A major chapter is closing in how you get along with others, and it coincides with new found stability at home. (See? Another gift.) A revamped foundation for your very existence is settling into place. Simpler, maybe. Sturdier, for sure. And built to support you for the long haul.

October, March and June bring construction milestones in this remodeling process. Along the way, you get some … personal growth, let’s call it. November sees you speaking up for yourself with grace, ease and uncommon effectiveness. Remind yourself how well that went when the urge resurfaces, as it will, to dress your meaning up in niceties instead of stating it plainly. Indirectness will have repercussions, particularly in March.

Besides, you’ll be needing your attention for your own well-being this spring. Something’s up with what you’re putting your body through daily: Looney Tunes coworkers, weird reactions to food, a mystifying health issue. Keeping to routine won’t solve the mystery, but a time out will help. Lucky you’ve got that night light; bask in it and and let a proper course of action come to you. Lucky, too, that secure and stable foundation is sinking into place beneath you.

Funny how they’re connected. The more you take down time, the more solid the ground is beneath your feet. The more your home life settles down, the easier it is to indulge in time for yourself. The teamwork is giving you a sense of security that has staying power. That will only grow and deepen. That supports a straightforward regard for your own needs. And that’s the year’s gift that keeps on giving.

AstroFlash – September, 2015

AstroFlash – September, 2015

Take charge, ladies! And raise your standards, get your life in order. Now is the time.

Appliance of the Month: Juice Extractor
Eat Dessert First: Sept. 1-8
WTF Just Happened? Sept. 17
Talk, Tech & Travel Advisory: Sept. 17 – 30

Carpe that diem like crazy before the sun sets on Labor Day, because after that, it’s down to business, big time. This is more than stock advice, my friends. It is a month-wrangling strategy. The more you indulge yourself in the first week, the better the following weeks will go. Your personal flavor of end-of-summer blow-out will leave you with you a strong taste of getting what you want, a taste that will scream “Me! Over here! Remember me?” as you navigate choices, doorways and changed conditions throughout the month.

This is a month of reveals — when cosmic dust settles and we finally start seeing situations, structures and relationships rising from the rubble of the past few years. Bring a broom. A new one’ll sweep clean, as the saying goes. There’ll be nooks and crannies aplenty to tidy up.

The temple that is your body is also due for clean-up and maintenance.  Out with (okay, into storage with) the cocktail blender; in with the Vitamix and detox diets. Don’t overlook the perimeter. Check the property line and fences, and redraw boundaries firmly. No apologies, either. (Put that on a sticky note: No apologies.)  If this combo doesn’t tame your power surges, no more tolerating. Get medical help.

No more tolerating applies to relationships as well. Chapters are closing in your personal rule book (what you expect, what you put in, what you accept) as well as in specific relationships. You’ve seen this coming, so don’t panic. (You have a broom handy, right?) Some are leaving or permanently shifting gear — funny what healthier boundaries and choices can do — while new ones are coming in that fit your revised rule book. Or the new edition that’s being edited.

One more object you’ll be encountering:  the cosmic alarm clock. It goes off on the 17th and, sorry to say, will not snooze or shut off no matter how you smash it. The sound does, however, fluctuate. When it’s blaring, that’s a signal to check your talk/walk ratio: Look at what you say you believe and how that lines up with what you actually believe and the way you actually live. Own your beliefs and act on them responsibly, and voila! The alarm will get quieter.

Talk, Tech & Travel Advisory:  The year’s third communication-caution time begins on the 17th, when cosmic messenger Mercury turns retrograde until October 9. If you’ve been following AstroFlash for a while, you know the drill: Demons possess technology; messages get garbled; traffic snarls; misunderstandings abound. This time, he’s backtracking in Relationship Central, the sign of Libra. This could actually benefit us, since we’re all doing the Relationship Thing this month. So work it, sistah! Be a Girl Scout, resourceful and prepared. Double-check information. Follow up when calls, texts or email go unanswered. Allow extra time for getting around. Research; investigate; snoop. Ask nosey questions. Re-open discussions. When you trip, look around for dropped information and previously unnoticed doorways.  You could come out of this retrograde well armed with info. Very well armed.

 

 

Category Archives: AstroFlash

It’s not just hormones! Check out your forecast for the month, and, for birthday girls, you’ll find your special spotlight horoscope, too. Have a little fun, check out what our resident Astrologist sees coming your way this month! Just scroll down the page to see what’s been posted.

AstroFlash – June, 2016

AstroFlash – June, 2016

Everyone's acting hormonal, men included.

AstroFlash June 2016
Weirdsville June 1-23
What’s This? Solid Ground? June 26
Bliss Out June 27

Look at June as a carnival funhouse. If only it were just your environment. The catch is, there’s one inside of you as well. Remember, you will eventually find the exit, even if you can’t see it until it’s right in front of your face. Until then …

Are you all over the map?! ADD, OCD, turbocharged, hyper-productive, confused, at peace, overwhelmed, stretched beyond your limits, exhausted yet trucking on, stressed out, freaked out, blissed out — sometimes in rapid succession, sometimes in one confounding tossed salad of emotions and reactions.

Go easy on yourself, and other people, too. No one is exempt. Everyone’s acting hormonal, men included.

Here’s how this wackiness benefits you:
1. You’re off the hook, because you can’t do everything or  force anything.
2. You’ll instinctively gravitate to what’s most important.
3. Other people will deal with their own whatever, or not, no skin off your nose for a change (spouses and children included).
4. You’ll get a peak or two behind the curtain.
5. Bonus for creatives: the potential for artistic productivity and success is off the charts.

The best way through it?  Surrendering, for starters.  And keeping focus on your body’s needs (sleep, food, tender touch) and mundane, physical details, like doing dishes, staying on top of bills and clearing clutter off your floors, dining table, bathroom counter and desk now and again.

As the month floats toward a close, a growing sense of stabilization joins the tossed salad. This ingredient stays on when the rest of the bowl is dumped into the trash (though the memories and gifts of the rest will remain). Keep tissues on hand for the 27th, when hearts blow open and tears may flow. In a good way.

AstroFlash – April, 2016

AstroFlash – April, 2016

…And give slack generously. Everyone’s a bit off right now. Men included.

Power Surges April 4-9
Avoid Sharp Objects April 4-9, 22-24
She’s Gotta Have It April 12, 19, 29
This Again? April 17-30
Talk & Travel Advisory April 28-30

You can’t blame this month on menopause. People who have no prior history of hormonally-charged outbursts — even those blessed-among-women-of-you out there — are gonna be acting out like toddlers. Or women of a certain age, under a certain influence. Primal, dramatic impulses are all the rage:  Flying off the handle. Screaming until hoarse. Erupting with frustration, fury, that-does-it outbursts, and then Doing Something About It. Taking humongous risks in a split-second and then wondering why they waited so long.

A pressure cooker is exploding that’s been building steam for months, probably years. This is good news.  With insistent and ferocious volatility like this, staying stuck is impossible. The aftermath will feel like you’ve been sprung from jail, though it may take a while for your nerves and blood pressure to settle.

Besides, you’ll have ample opportunity to take another look around and tweak your big, bold moves. From the 17th on opportunities for cosmic do-overs come in ever-increasing waves.  Well, maybe not so much do over entirely as ask questions, think through the operating assumptions, and nail down issues of training or legalities.

Some of these chances may come in disguise, of course, like tripping on a shoelace that’s come loose, or breaking a heel. All these little irritants have a silver lining, and not just to provide a safe target for all the …. fieriness surging within you.

And speaking of irritation, month’s end brings everybody’s favorite cosmic visitor (not!). Yes, it’s time once again for another Talk and Travel Weirdness Advisory.  From April 28 – May 22, the cosmic messenger Mercury will be retrograde, a time when the normal rules of operation go out the window for communicating and getting around.  Demons possess technology; messages get garbled; traffic snarls; misunderstandings abound.  This particular installment will make time feel slower than slow. That’s great for savoring experiences (there will be some you’ll want to prolong this month) (no, seriously, there will), but annoying when you’re on a mission.

No freak-outs, please. Be proactive and prepared.  Double-check information. Make notes and lists like crazy. Follow up if calls, texts or email go unanswered. Allow scads of time for getting around. Look for opportunities to back track, pick up dropped information and clean up some old business. And give slack generously. Everyone’s a bit off right now. Men included.

(Bite your tongue!)

Astroflash- February, 2016

Astroflash- February, 2016

Your reward at month’s end: long bubble baths, bingeing on chick flicks and floating off in your own fantasy, private or duo.

Three Truffles Minimum: Feb. 5
Ask For What You Want (But Avoid Sharp Objects): Feb 5-7
Fish or Cut Bait: Feb. 13
Tub Time:  Feb. 19, 26, 28

And, just when you had given up on your brain ever returning, there it is.  Bringing a burning awareness of what you want, crave, gotta have, no matter what. Woe to anyone or anything that gets in your way, especially in the first third of the month. No waiting around for Valentine’s Day and hoping a certain someone reads your mind and delivers a prized goodie. Godiva assortments, a Michael Kors bag, your secret obsession or some more … physical, shall we say, object of desire. You’re helping yourself to it in advance of that minefield of a holiday, and kicking down walls, barriers or viewpoints that interfere.

Once you actually allow yourself to want, then allow yourself to have, a blockage uncorks. Why stop with a new leather bag? Why not upgrade your car as well? Or, okay, more realistically, simply allow yourself to enjoy being in a body again. No matter what its current condition. This isn’t the onset of second childhood madness. It’s reclaiming your life, and every act of dominion and devil-may-care enjoyment grounds you more and more in the here and now.  Cosmic bonus: Doing this assists in pulling a dream or two down to earth as well. Park your cynicism and see.

Even a newly revived woman can keep up this emotional intensity for only so long, and then it lets up. Lightening up happens after Valentine’s, when your mind regains its top running speed. Your druthers shift to hanging out with pals and looking at much in your life from the distance of that 10-foot pole everyone used to invoke. When the spring cleaning urge arrives three weeks ahead of schedule, give in to it. Your reward at month’s end: long bubble baths, bingeing on chick flicks and floating off in your own fantasy, private or duo.  And while you’re off in your personal flavor of la-la land, don’t be disturbed at that creaking sound. It’s only a door opening onto one of those first-of-the-month desires showing up for real. For a pleasant change.

 

AstroFlash – January, 2016

AstroFlash – January, 2016

"You have a superpower at your disposal. Call it a Spidey sense or heightened intuition...you've got access to an ability to feel your way through the fog that borders on sonar.

Fog Advisory: All Month Long
Talk & Travel Weirdness: Jan. 5-25
Big Girl Panties On: Jan. 8
Light Bulbs Pop: Jan. 20, 31
She’s Gotta Have It:  Jan. 18, 23-31

This month will have you wondering if your brain got thrown out with the holiday wrapping. No such luck. Hormones aren’t to blame, either. (Much.) The skies are sending out a double-whammy that guarantees spaciness, confusion and reasons to question sanity. Whammy the first: the cosmic fog machine, on high 24/7, with the off switch disabled until summer. Whammy the second: the fun and games known as Mercury retrograde, from Jan. 5 – 25, when gab, gadgets and getting around replace their usual rules of operation with something closer to roulette.  (More about this at the bottom.)

The good news? (Hear me out.) You’ve got company aplenty.  No one is immune to this brain fog, not no one, not no how. It’s not necessarily unpleasant, either. At times it may be a hoot, even, with the goofy buzz that usually comes from really good painkillers. Plus, you have a superpower at your disposal. Call it a Spidey sense or heightened intuition or paranoia that turns out to be on to something major; you’ve got access to an ability to feel your way through the fog that borders on sonar. Use that and the whereabouts of your mind won’t matter so much. It can’t really help much with the fog, anyway.

On those occasions when your brain does surface, occupy it with pre-spring cleaning (think: tidying up before the housekeeper arrives.) Review, rethink and reorganize any systems that go haywire now, not to mention the small stuff that’s always tripping you up. Don’t tempt fate, though. Hold off introducing new elements until the end of the month, when only one whammy is in effect.

All the confusion and disorientation have a surprising kicker. You’re making progress with long-term value, just without the usual fuss and bother — or, at times, any earthly idea where you’re heading. Your heart and inner GPS have a clue, though. Your mind gets a glimmer of it around the 20th. It’s crystal clear by month’s end.  Good timing, too. A path is opening for a dream to come down into reality. You wouldn’t want your mind to get in the way.

Talk and Travel Weirdness Advisory:  The year’s first communication-caution time (aka the dreaded Mercury retrograde). runs January 5 -25, but the advisory holds until the planet starts moving noticeably on the 28th.  Demons possess technology; messages get garbled; traffic snarls; misunderstandings abound  — and the fog will make it harder than usual to wise up to them. No freak-outs, please. Be proactive and prepared.  Double-check information. Make notes and lists like crazy. Follow up if calls, texts or email go unanswered. Allow scads of time for getting around. Look for opportunities to back track, pick up dropped information and clean up some old business. And give slack generously. Everyone’s mind’s a bit off right now.

To learn what 2016 holds in store, order Kathy’s astro-overview mp3.

Astroflash- December

Astroflash- December

Hormonal surges? Pent up frustration and anger? Why, yes, they’ll do nicely as fuel; about time something useful came from them.

Power Surge: Dec. 1-10
Avoid Sharp Objects: Dec: 6, 10
Wine? Yes, Please: Dec. 11
Big Girl Panty Time: Dec. 14
Diet, Schmiet: Dec. 24-25

Remember Rosie the Riveter? The iconic WWII factory worker flexing her arm muscle beneath the slogan “We Can Do It”? She’s your role model the first half of December. This time it’s more than the usual frenzy of holiday prep and wrapping up the year. This one comes with super-hero-level determination to push unfinished business forward, and probably shove some folks along, too.

It’s enough to leave you exhausted and whimpering in the kitchen while everyone around you is making Hallmark memories. That’s so not you now, though. Summon your inner Rosie and channel the pressures (largely self-imposed, ahem) into phenomenal productivity.  Hormonal surges? Pent up frustration and anger? Why, yes, they’ll do nicely as fuel; about time something useful came from them.

No silent suffering, either. Speak up, delegate and drop the topic. The stars have something quite other than micro-managing in store. Cosmic hands are on your back propelling you into a different paradigm for everything from relationship ground rules to traditions to long-term goals to the very foundation of your life. Turns out old dogs can learn new tricks, and you’ll be breaking them in like crazy.

That you’re in that process will dawn on you in the month’s second half, when you get to go to your own party for a change. Mommy Moon (aka a full moon in Cancer) rules the roost at Christmas. Whether you celebrate or not, the days around it promise to be more sweet and cozy than the whirlwind leading to it will have you believe.

This year’s magic comes with the awareness that it is fleeting, and not just because Seals & Crofts’ “We May Never Pass This Way Again” keeps slipping into the holiday playlist.  An era is ending. Enjoy its last hurrah. Celebrate it. Sort through it and decide what bits to carry with you when the clock strikes midnight on the 31st. Toast the old and then the new. Throw in a toast for Rosie while you’re at it.

 

 

Spotlight on Scorpio, 2015

Spotlight on Scorpio, 2015

Handle what you can for now, and keep your eye on the long term. At least, into March.

Fussbudget Frenzy Nov. 1 – 5
Danger, Will Robinson! Nov. 20-27
Big Girl Panties ON! Nov. 24
Salute Yourself  Nov. 29

Didn’t we just get through with back-to-school? That’s what the calendar says, but here you are again, making plans, lists and supply runs against some deadline invisible to the rest of us. The secret is:  You aren’t the only one. Everyone’s going into November on mental overdrive:  analyzing, criticizing, fixing, scheming and teaming.

The reason isn’t just the onset of Impending Holiday Panic. Recognizable developments are emerging from the cosmic rubble at last. They’re inspiring us to clear room for them, work on them and identify people with something useful for them. True, some of these developments are taking shape with the speed of fish coming ashore and sprouting feet.  The slow roll-out allows you time to wrap your head around them and get ready. Handle what you can for now, and keep your eye on the long term. At least, into March.

You aren’t going it alone, either. Relationships are coming along for the ride, and in for evolving, too. You can minimize the bumpiness by setting clear boundaries and minding your own business. Even when you know best. Even with your husband. (Especially with your husband.) This does not mean being quiet (yeah, right!), but being judicious. And maybe a little canny. At least until the 20th, this is the month to bring up topics you normally skirt: debt load, aging parents, your own retirement planning and mortality, betrayal and s-e-x. Nonverbal cues and communication will speak louder than words or expressions. Trust your gut.

After the 20th, switch to smiling and steering conversations away from danger zones. The most turbulent stretch of the ride falls, lucky us, smack during Thanksgiving week. Evolution will lurch forward, like it or not. Unavoidable pressure is bearing down on traditions, patterns, systems and family structures, whether blood or chosen.  Too much togetherness — well, any togetherness, at some points during this stretch — will send even the most devoted moms running  from the house.

But not you. You will have contingency plans in place. And a private stash of whatever it takes to get you through this: wine, chocolate, bubble bath, more wine. Keep your eye on those slowly emerging developments that inspired your fussbudgetry at month’s start. Guard and protect them, with the detachment of Mr. Spock. They stand to benefit, improve and flourish from whatever shifts, collapses or breaks open Thanksgiving week. (Any of which could be welcome. Enjoyable, too. Seriously.)

Be an advocate for evolution. Be the adult in the room. Be the voice of sanity that declares topics off-limits. Or decides that there is no time to make three different pies, one of which no one really eats anyway, so Thanksgiving dinner will have only one pie this year. Or asks, yea even assigns, other people to shoulder responsibility for dishes, clean up and weekend activities.

Whatever the framework — family gatherings, get-togethers with friends, private time one-on-one, pretty much any situation in your life at this point, actually — “That’s the way we’ve always done it” doesn’t cut it anymore. So come up with a different way. Then toast the milestone in your own evolution.  By yourself or with others; your call. It’s your life, after all. And that notion is starting to sink in, good.

Spotlight On Scorpio – 2015

Spotlight On Scorpio – 2015

October  23 - November 21    "The true bottom line is not your bank balance...it's your self-worth."

Your Spidey sense has been tingling with signals that this year could be easier than the last few. That spine-crushing pressure you’ve been enduring has lifted. You’re relaxing like never before into sharing yourself with other humans, sibs included. You’ve been piling up beaucoups of older-and-wiser cred, and you’re itching to start cashing it in.

The signals you’re picking up are right on the money.  You are indeed in for one of the most freeing and rewarding years in recent memory. And all of those signals are part of why.

The biggest growth potential comes from letting the rest of us know more of what’s going on in your head. If you can let your clutches up on that trademark privacy, more disclosure will reveal its benefits. Its increasingly tangible, yea even financial benefits. Ah. That got your attention.

You’ve got a cosmic formula for making a dream come true this year — not in your mind while you’re soaking in the tub, or driving to work, or trying to blot out the latest jolt to your body. (More on that it a sec.) But for real, tangibly, out here where you can touch and trust it.  Maybe it’s polishing your unique voice, building a podium and finding the audience. (Show of hands: Who’s got a novel on a hard drive?) Maybe it’s structuring time for vacations and art classes. Maybe it’s giving romance another whirl, even at this point in life. Whatever form the development takes, it’s been in the works for years. Capitalizing on it does not require a personality transplant. You can still hold some of your cards close. Just lay more of them on the table. The circles you run in (friends, homeowners’ associations, online groups) have people positioned to be uncommonly helpful and supportive. Take constructive criticism as sign of loyalty. Dip into your innate patience and tenacity, too. Like all enduring construction, this one takes time to build. The rollout runs from fall 2015 through early next summer.

While the concrete and paint dry on your dream, your schedule continues to be as whackadoodle as your energy levels — and, on some days, your relationship with your body. Alas, stability and certainty are just not in the stars for the foreseeable future. (Do. Not. Kill. The. Messenger.)  Your firmest intentions are no match for the twists and turns disrupting your job demands, eating and exercise habits,  and, big surprise, health. Add to that instability the anxiety, excitement, power surges or undefinable jitteriness periodically zipping through you like an electrical current. They’re motivating, irritating, and sometimes debilitating, thwarting plans like an angry kid upending a game board.

You’re no victim; nope, not you. Ante up some of that older-and-wiser cred and work it. Be who and do whatever you damn well feel like. Make life up as you go along. (Eating Paleo at breakfast and going vegan by sundown? Ain’t nobody’s business if you do.) And view those electrical impulses as an annoying but well-intended friend. Use them as fuel for speed demon productivity. Or take a time out and disperse them. (Play superhero and imagine them zooming out of your palms and feet.) Or use them as an excuse to escape something you didn’t want to do anyway (shhhhhh).

As for other blips and bumps that may lie ahead, they’re peanuts compared to what has tripped you up in recent years. The one area of concern is near and dear to your heart, which is to say, your wallet. Whether it’s tight or not. money does require extra special attention these days. The true bottom line is not your bank balance, though. It’s your self-worth. Commit to that and many issues that present as  about money will turn out to be about something else. (Mark March for this, when your radar will be more reliable than other people’s words.)

A great year ahead for you, Scorpio!

AstroFlash- October, 2015

AstroFlash- October, 2015

The old selfish is the new healthy. Keep your energy for yourself.

Talk & Travel Advisory: Oct. 1-9
Where’d My Brain Go? Oct. 6, 16, 18
Just Say No: Oct. 10
Resistance Is Futile:  Oct. 23
Halloween Candy At Risk: Oct. 23-31

Who has the time to put up fake harvest tableaux and Halloween geegaws? Not you. Not unless they make you insanely happy. This month is more about cleaning than cluttering. More snapping Lego blocks together than stumbling on them when you get up to go to the bathroom during the night. More Disney princesses than vampires that actually draw blood.

Besides, life is finally feeling like it’s getting somewhere. Instead of depositing you in a minefield or flinging you into a wall, effort is now yielding … results. You don’t need a cosmic cattle prod for motivation anymore, either. As projects and situations take shape that have been in the works for months or longer, that’s carrot enough to keep applying elbow grease.

Just not on other people. Sure, you see room for improvement in your relatives, but don’t make that your job. A new chapter in all your relationships is starting mid-month. The old selfish is the new healthy. Keep your energy for yourself. Handle your side of the relationship see-saw and the other person will handle his. Eventually. His problem, not yours.

There will still be moments of crossed wires, wonky technology, traffic that makes no sense and space cadet behavior. These are constants until the talk and travel advisory lifts on the 10th, after which they fade in and out like radio signals on a road trip.

As Halloween approaches, something’s noticeably on the prowl, and not the usual spooks and ghouls and trick or treaters. Desires. Huge. Irresistible. Heavy on ones you’d usually keep on the down low. Fighting them is just not in the stars, so you may as well indulge. Tip for party-planners: Pick the weekend before Halloween if intrigue and a frisson of danger are what you want. Prefer costumes and fantasy? Schedule your do on the night itself.  It has a gentle air of  escapism and magic. Just keep a designated driver at hand. Or a taxi number. With the workout your elbow’s been getting all month, you’re likely not to keep track of how much you’re bending it on Halloween.

Spotlight on Libra – 2015

Spotlight on Libra – 2015

September 23 - October 23

Upheaval can go on for just so long before it starts feeling normal. That’s one of this year’s gifts for you, Libra, and with sugar on top. The roller coaster ride that’s been masquerading as your marriage and home life? You’re getting the hang of it. Wising up to how it frees you, even. And when you loosen your vise-like grip (what, you? controlling? c’mon, that smile isn’t fooling anyone), when you let your arms fly above your head, lo and behold: The track smooths out. Again and again and again.

Also making the ride more comfortable is the cosmic night light that’s beaming gentle reassurance and optimism into your very cells, night and day, no matter what. (That’s another one of this year’s gifts.) The bulb’s long-life, guaranteed to shine into next September. Its glow will entice you to disconnect from the daily grind and rest, regroup and recharge. For yourself, on your own terms.

Those concepts — for yourself, on your own terms — are a pivotal plot driver this fall. A major chapter is closing in how you get along with others, and it coincides with new found stability at home. (See? Another gift.) A revamped foundation for your very existence is settling into place. Simpler, maybe. Sturdier, for sure. And built to support you for the long haul.

October, March and June bring construction milestones in this remodeling process. Along the way, you get some … personal growth, let’s call it. November sees you speaking up for yourself with grace, ease and uncommon effectiveness. Remind yourself how well that went when the urge resurfaces, as it will, to dress your meaning up in niceties instead of stating it plainly. Indirectness will have repercussions, particularly in March.

Besides, you’ll be needing your attention for your own well-being this spring. Something’s up with what you’re putting your body through daily: Looney Tunes coworkers, weird reactions to food, a mystifying health issue. Keeping to routine won’t solve the mystery, but a time out will help. Lucky you’ve got that night light; bask in it and and let a proper course of action come to you. Lucky, too, that secure and stable foundation is sinking into place beneath you.

Funny how they’re connected. The more you take down time, the more solid the ground is beneath your feet. The more your home life settles down, the easier it is to indulge in time for yourself. The teamwork is giving you a sense of security that has staying power. That will only grow and deepen. That supports a straightforward regard for your own needs. And that’s the year’s gift that keeps on giving.

AstroFlash – September, 2015

AstroFlash – September, 2015

Take charge, ladies! And raise your standards, get your life in order. Now is the time.

Appliance of the Month: Juice Extractor
Eat Dessert First: Sept. 1-8
WTF Just Happened? Sept. 17
Talk, Tech & Travel Advisory: Sept. 17 – 30

Carpe that diem like crazy before the sun sets on Labor Day, because after that, it’s down to business, big time. This is more than stock advice, my friends. It is a month-wrangling strategy. The more you indulge yourself in the first week, the better the following weeks will go. Your personal flavor of end-of-summer blow-out will leave you with you a strong taste of getting what you want, a taste that will scream “Me! Over here! Remember me?” as you navigate choices, doorways and changed conditions throughout the month.

This is a month of reveals — when cosmic dust settles and we finally start seeing situations, structures and relationships rising from the rubble of the past few years. Bring a broom. A new one’ll sweep clean, as the saying goes. There’ll be nooks and crannies aplenty to tidy up.

The temple that is your body is also due for clean-up and maintenance.  Out with (okay, into storage with) the cocktail blender; in with the Vitamix and detox diets. Don’t overlook the perimeter. Check the property line and fences, and redraw boundaries firmly. No apologies, either. (Put that on a sticky note: No apologies.)  If this combo doesn’t tame your power surges, no more tolerating. Get medical help.

No more tolerating applies to relationships as well. Chapters are closing in your personal rule book (what you expect, what you put in, what you accept) as well as in specific relationships. You’ve seen this coming, so don’t panic. (You have a broom handy, right?) Some are leaving or permanently shifting gear — funny what healthier boundaries and choices can do — while new ones are coming in that fit your revised rule book. Or the new edition that’s being edited.

One more object you’ll be encountering:  the cosmic alarm clock. It goes off on the 17th and, sorry to say, will not snooze or shut off no matter how you smash it. The sound does, however, fluctuate. When it’s blaring, that’s a signal to check your talk/walk ratio: Look at what you say you believe and how that lines up with what you actually believe and the way you actually live. Own your beliefs and act on them responsibly, and voila! The alarm will get quieter.

Talk, Tech & Travel Advisory:  The year’s third communication-caution time begins on the 17th, when cosmic messenger Mercury turns retrograde until October 9. If you’ve been following AstroFlash for a while, you know the drill: Demons possess technology; messages get garbled; traffic snarls; misunderstandings abound. This time, he’s backtracking in Relationship Central, the sign of Libra. This could actually benefit us, since we’re all doing the Relationship Thing this month. So work it, sistah! Be a Girl Scout, resourceful and prepared. Double-check information. Follow up when calls, texts or email go unanswered. Allow extra time for getting around. Research; investigate; snoop. Ask nosey questions. Re-open discussions. When you trip, look around for dropped information and previously unnoticed doorways.  You could come out of this retrograde well armed with info. Very well armed.

 

 

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