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Non-hormonal SERMS for Hotflash Relief?

Non-hormonal SERMS for Hotflash Relief?

If you can’t use estrogen therapy or you choose not to, SERMS just might give you an alternative to suffering. NAMS is the North American Menopause Society, which is a trusted source for keeping on top of the news in perimenopause and menopause treatments. Here’s why you might want to check out the NAMS information on this non-hormonal therapy:

“You should talk to your clinician about SERMs if you are experiencing hot flashes and have a history of breast cancer, have been told you have low bone density, want to avoid uterine bleeding or changes in breast density, or sex is painful for you. For a more thorough discussion about SERMs, see the NAMS video What Selective Estrogen Receptor Modulators (SERMs) Can Do for You.”

We aren’t doctors and we don’t play them on the internet- but we recommend that if perimenopause or menopause symptoms are impacting the quality of your life, then look into SERMS. It’s science, not hocus pocus.

Life is short. Use what you know to make every day the best you can.

Chocolate cake with that coffee?

Chocolate cake with that coffee?

Eating chocolate cake as part of a full breakfast can help you lose weight, say scientists. Thanks to The Telegraph for cluing us in on this!

You know we have a “check with your health advisors” disclaimer here, right? Because we’re sharing an article here titled Chocolate Cake Breakfast Could Help You Lose Weight.”  Naturally, even though we’re skeptical, we do love the idea. And if you read the piece, in the Telegraph, the notion is supported by a study, and it actually makes a lot of sense.

“…one of the biggest challenges that people face is keeping weight off in the long-term. Ingesting a higher proportion of our daily calories at breakfast makes sense. It’s not only good for body function but it also alleviates cravings. Highly restrictive diets that forbid desserts and carbohydrates are initially effective but often cause dieters to stray from their food plans as a result of withdrawal-like symptoms. They wind up regaining much of the weight they lost during the diet proper.

Ultimately this shows a diet must be realistic to be adopted as part of a new lifestyle. Curbing cravings is better than deprivation for weight loss success.  said Professor Jakubowicz, Tel Aviv University.

What we want to know is whether or not pumpkin pie is as effective as chocolate cake….

A Bond WOMAN, at last!

A Bond WOMAN, at last!

 

007 romancing an older woman? We love it!

When I saw the trailer for the new Bond flick, Spectre, I had to find out more! Monica Bellucci isn’t your typical Bond girl. She is fifty-one years old,walking that Bond movie premiere red carpet. Not only that, she’s four years older than Daniel Craig, which makes her an “older woman.” (Not to say cougar) No one batted an eyelid to think of a forty-seven year-old Bond, but when you start talking about Bellucci cast opposite him, jaws dropped. Thank you, director Sam Mendez.

In an interview in The Daily Mail, Ms. Belucci shares the perspective that makes her a Hot Flash Heroine:

‘…menopause is a natural thing, it is not a sickness,’ she says. ‘OK, the body at the beginning will get a bit mad. But after a few months, or one year, it’s going to be OK. This is a natural process of life. I am not nervous about it at all.’

We LOVE that!

Of course, as a woman who’s been voted “the most beautiful woman in the world” on numerous occasions- Monica Bellucci isn’t what most people think of when they think of women heading into menopause. But we think she’s what YOU should think of, along with that key phrase, “menopause is a natural thing.” Shoot. If menopause doesn’t scare a Bond woman- take your cue from her!

What we’d like to ask if we’d had a few glasses of wine:  In the movies, it’s customary for leading men to be cast opposite women who are as much as half their age. In your “real life”, would you date a man who is half your age? What are the advantages of being the “older woman”?

 

Photo Attribution:  Manfred Werner – TsuiOwn work

Are You a Door Mat? Wisdom from Martha Beck

Are You a Door Mat? Wisdom from Martha Beck

Martha Beck is a hero to us at Hot Flash Daily. She tells it like it is, even when we find it hard to “go there.”

In a recent blog post about “How to Stand Up for Yourself“, Martha talks about times when we allow ourselves to be exploited:

“we stop acting on our own desires and become purely reactive instead, focused not on what we want but on what others will think, say, or do.”

She gives a very clear description of the kinds of feelings that might signal you’re in this situation, on a scale from:

Feeling: Disturbed
You easily brush aside your feelings and continue your nice, polite behavior.”

through four other feelings to the last, most extreme feeling:

Feeling: Homicidal
You daydream about thrashing the offender in a cage fight. You have knots in your stomach and can’t sleep. You’re irritable or depressed. You may occasionally lash out at loved ones in what appears to be irrational rage. Toward the offender, however, you still act “nice” and “polite.”

We’re not just posting this because we know menopause can make us feel homicidal. (Yep.)  All jokes aside, it is a time when feelings can be stronger and closer to the surface than before your hormones put you on this menopause journey. It can be difficult to decide what is real and what people often tell us is “the hormones talking.”  Martha’s blog might just help you see a situation where you could stand up for yourself and improve your energy and your life! We hope so.

What we want for you is a life where you stand up for yourself.  Where you make the best day of every day you have. And we bring you every tool we can to help make that possible.

 

How to Be Wise in Menopause

How to Be Wise in Menopause

A perspective to help you feel "yourself" during this transition.

When we are experiencing change in our lives, there is a lot of new and unknown territory, and menopause is full of change. It is a time in our lives when so much of our experience is out of our control. It can feel chaotic and overwhelming.

There are a lot of moving pieces in our outer world when we are in menopause.

So what can help us?

  • We can ground ourselves in a deep awareness of our own resourcefulness.
  • We can breathe and remember that we have the answers we need within ourselves.
  • We can make space and listen to our deep inner wellspring of wisdom.
  • We can give ourselves permission to Not Know.
  • We can treat ourselves well, with love and compassion.

I’m not saying that any of these is always easy to do. They are a place of deep trust. In my experience, they take practice. It seems like they aren’t habitual for most of us. But deep down, I know these things can help me when I remember them.

I’m hoping they will help you too.

Exercise & Breast Cancer Risk Post-Menopause

Exercise & Breast Cancer Risk Post-Menopause

Easy to judge a smoker as irresponsible for taking that cancer risk- but what about you and exercise?

Oh Canada, 300 minutes of exercise a week? Truly?  “Post menopausal women who are trying to lose weight clearly benefit from doing 300 minutes of exercise per week, compared to getting half as much exercise,” an Alberta study has found. We’re talking about moderate to vigorous aerobic exercise.

Darn it, right? So many studies have been telling us that a twenty minute session is as good as a sixty minute one, so what’s going on?

The key difference seems to be that this study was specifically focused on breast cancer risk.

“Our findings of a dose-response effect of exercise on total fat mass and several other adiposity measures including abdominal fat, especially in obese women, provide a basis for encouraging postmenopausal women to exercise at least 300 minutes/week, which is longer than the minimum recommended for cancer prevention.”

Reading about the study on The University of Calgary’s website, it is interesting to note that fat loss is “an important (though not the only) mediator of this association.” So, if we’re reading this right, that means that 300 minutes is the important number even if you are at your ideal body weight. Meaning, from now on, the goal should be 300 minutes per week.

I don’t know about you, but as I get older, I know more and more people who have been impacted by breast cancer. Women with no family history. And where I’m heading is the reality that I have a responsibility- to myself, to my husband and to my daughter- to do everything I can to be healthy. After years of hearing my mother cough and then, at the end of her life, be tethered to an oxygen tank, I have no problem wondering why anyone in her right mind would choose to smoke a cigarette. But I have never seen myself as the same kind of crazy for the eating and exercise choices that I make. Until now.

Is there really any reason NOT to start exercising or exercising more, if you are physically able?

What is it going to take? No. Seriously, what is it going to take?

Start today. Start where you are. Just get to it.

Note:  Always always seek advice from your health experts. We aim to offer you some targeting that you can discuss with your own experts. (Cause though we like to think we do, we don’t know you or your situation!)

 

Get over it.

Get over it.

I do not lie, menopause has kicked my ass.

This is the time of year we “spring forward”- move the clocks in advance of spring to give us more daylight. You know I love “new starts”, I think they are great opportunities to “get over” some of the barriers our own minds put in place. Things like “I could never” and “I’m not ready”, that keep us from being who we really know we want to be.

SO- big important thought here, [DRAMATIC PAUSE] – what is it that you feel is in your way, and what would it mean to get over it?

Here’s an example. I do not lie, menopause has kicked my ass. I have put on pounds, very easily, I might add- and they are wrapped around my middle. I am the typical cartoon menopause shape. I haven’t yet been able to lose it. I see this whole big, long, horrible diet marathon ahead and I immediately want a cheeseburger and a glass of Cabernet to get over my trauma! So here’s how I’m going to spring forward- I’m going to leap past the diet bugaboo and go to:

“I am a woman who eats to have a healthy body. I eat well, sometimes I indulge, but all in all, I am taking extremely good care of my body and my energy.”
(aka “man, I am tired of having a body that doesn’t reflect who I know I am.”)

I might add support, like weight watchers, and I will come up with a plan, but, honestly, if I get over the wall of “NO, I CAN’T STAND DIETING”, and go on to “hey, I’m pretty cool, I want to be healthy and I really need more energy, I’m going to eat for my health”, that feels a lot more do-able. I feel much less resistance. I can do that. And frankly, it ain’t like I don’t know how to lose weight. Yes, before you leap in to tell me, exercise is part of it- but for me, the food thing is the biggest factor.

What is your brick wall? What would be thrilling to leave behind? That’s the challenge of the weekend. Decide to spring forward. Life is short, make it the best you can!

p.s. If you want to make a public commitment, well, you can do it here! We are a friendly, supportive gang!

Funny or Not? Menopause Humor

Funny or Not? Menopause Humor

Hmm. Do you think this is entertaining? Funny at first glance, to be sure. But I'm over it.

This saying is from a Facebook post from Comedy 103.1, a page that posts a lot of funny things. Many of which, I laugh at and share. As of today, this menopause meme has gotten nearly 100,000 likes. I bet if I shared it on the Hot Flash Daily Facebook page, I could get a few hundred on our page, too! But I just can’t. Why? It’s the kind of menopause humor that leaves me cold.

I’m not usually a “hard ass” about humor, that’s for sure! But after many years of comments and cartoons and cliches, the whole “women and their mysterious hormonal goings-on that gives them mental illness and they act crazy” thing is a big turn-off. The notion of “she’s on the rag” or “she’s menopostal” as a way of explaining behavior or describing a woman is insulting. Yep. Maybe it’s just the linking of menstruation and menopause with mental illness. Or the notion that anything related to women starts with men! Sheesh.

I KNOW, I can’t believe I’m so sensitive!

Ridiculous. Or not? I’m curious. What’s your reaction?

AstroFlash – September

AstroFlash – September

We’re uncommonly ready to put summer behind us and get down to it, whatever our particular flavor of “it” may be.

Detox Sept. 5-28 (schedule one-day cleanses for 3, 7 or 9)
Got tissues?  Sept. 7-8
Play the odds Sept. 14
Binge-a-rama Sept. 30

September’s traditional party pooper vibe is actually welcome this year. We’re uncommonly ready to put summer behind us and get down to it, whatever our particular flavor of “it” may be.

The skies are encouraging a sober (mostly) and grounding approach to anything and everything that matters. Climb on board and ride that bandwagon! Improve your diet. Organize. Keep a proper schedule. Shore up those boundaries.

They may benefit from sandbags around the 8th, when nostalgia, regret, compassion and maybe hormones swell under the Pisces Full Moon. It has the potential to heal (it’s okay to be human, really it is) and put the past to rest. As you wring yourself out, admit how much of what’s overflowing really belongs to others. Which call for better boundaries, people!

Claim and clear your private space by the weekend of the 13/14th. Impulses to have fun and adventure surge then. So does desire. Throwing caution to the wind will be epidemic. Be sure you’re targeting what you want and not acting out someone else’s agenda. (See previous paragraph.)

Under the fun and games, we all mean business this fall. The signal comes through loud and clear as the season changes Sept. 22. The Libra New Moon of the 24th paves the way to relationship shifts coming in October. No hyperventilating. Shifts can be good. You’ve been working toward these. A late-month shake-up clears the path. Then Venus returns to her love nest of Libra and invites us to enjoys ourselves and each other. After all the clean living you’ve been doing this month, she won’t need to ask you twice.

Shenanigans for Seniors?!

Shenanigans for Seniors?!

Apparently any libido issues clear up after menopause!

Have you read about the retirement community in Florida that is the talk of the nation?

“Ten women to every man, a black market in Viagra, and a ‘thriving swingers scene’: Welcome to The Villages, Florida, where the elderly residents down Sex on the Square cocktail in ‘honor’ of woman, 68, arrested for public sex with toyboy”. So says the Daily Mail, read the full article here.

Doesn’t it sound like every Spring Break movie you never bothered to see? Now, I’m sure there are plenty of grandparents there who aren’t doing anything they wouldn’t tell their kids about- but don’t you just love knowing that somewhere out there are retirees are having orgies? I mean, I don’t see myself at an orgy- or is it in an orgy, at any age- but I like knowing that the spirit of adventure survives, at any age. In fact, one of the comments about the woman who was arrested for having public sex was that she appears to be making up for her lost youth. And that’s what’s bitchin about this story. The “you’re never too old…” theme.

I thought about filing it under “Good News”, but, well, I just couldn’t go there with this one. Still- it is very good news that at any age, you just might have more epic times ahead!

Oh- and yep, those menopausal libido issues seem to have cleared up for lots of women in this place. That’s bitchin too!

Author Archives: Barbara Nelson

Non-hormonal SERMS for Hotflash Relief?

Non-hormonal SERMS for Hotflash Relief?

If you can’t use estrogen therapy or you choose not to, SERMS just might give you an alternative to suffering. NAMS is the North American Menopause Society, which is a trusted source for keeping on top of the news in perimenopause and menopause treatments. Here’s why you might want to check out the NAMS information on this non-hormonal therapy:

“You should talk to your clinician about SERMs if you are experiencing hot flashes and have a history of breast cancer, have been told you have low bone density, want to avoid uterine bleeding or changes in breast density, or sex is painful for you. For a more thorough discussion about SERMs, see the NAMS video What Selective Estrogen Receptor Modulators (SERMs) Can Do for You.”

We aren’t doctors and we don’t play them on the internet- but we recommend that if perimenopause or menopause symptoms are impacting the quality of your life, then look into SERMS. It’s science, not hocus pocus.

Life is short. Use what you know to make every day the best you can.

Chocolate cake with that coffee?

Chocolate cake with that coffee?

Eating chocolate cake as part of a full breakfast can help you lose weight, say scientists. Thanks to The Telegraph for cluing us in on this!

You know we have a “check with your health advisors” disclaimer here, right? Because we’re sharing an article here titled Chocolate Cake Breakfast Could Help You Lose Weight.”  Naturally, even though we’re skeptical, we do love the idea. And if you read the piece, in the Telegraph, the notion is supported by a study, and it actually makes a lot of sense.

“…one of the biggest challenges that people face is keeping weight off in the long-term. Ingesting a higher proportion of our daily calories at breakfast makes sense. It’s not only good for body function but it also alleviates cravings. Highly restrictive diets that forbid desserts and carbohydrates are initially effective but often cause dieters to stray from their food plans as a result of withdrawal-like symptoms. They wind up regaining much of the weight they lost during the diet proper.

Ultimately this shows a diet must be realistic to be adopted as part of a new lifestyle. Curbing cravings is better than deprivation for weight loss success.  said Professor Jakubowicz, Tel Aviv University.

What we want to know is whether or not pumpkin pie is as effective as chocolate cake….

A Bond WOMAN, at last!

A Bond WOMAN, at last!

 

007 romancing an older woman? We love it!

When I saw the trailer for the new Bond flick, Spectre, I had to find out more! Monica Bellucci isn’t your typical Bond girl. She is fifty-one years old,walking that Bond movie premiere red carpet. Not only that, she’s four years older than Daniel Craig, which makes her an “older woman.” (Not to say cougar) No one batted an eyelid to think of a forty-seven year-old Bond, but when you start talking about Bellucci cast opposite him, jaws dropped. Thank you, director Sam Mendez.

In an interview in The Daily Mail, Ms. Belucci shares the perspective that makes her a Hot Flash Heroine:

‘…menopause is a natural thing, it is not a sickness,’ she says. ‘OK, the body at the beginning will get a bit mad. But after a few months, or one year, it’s going to be OK. This is a natural process of life. I am not nervous about it at all.’

We LOVE that!

Of course, as a woman who’s been voted “the most beautiful woman in the world” on numerous occasions- Monica Bellucci isn’t what most people think of when they think of women heading into menopause. But we think she’s what YOU should think of, along with that key phrase, “menopause is a natural thing.” Shoot. If menopause doesn’t scare a Bond woman- take your cue from her!

What we’d like to ask if we’d had a few glasses of wine:  In the movies, it’s customary for leading men to be cast opposite women who are as much as half their age. In your “real life”, would you date a man who is half your age? What are the advantages of being the “older woman”?

 

Photo Attribution:  Manfred Werner – TsuiOwn work

Are You a Door Mat? Wisdom from Martha Beck

Are You a Door Mat? Wisdom from Martha Beck

Martha Beck is a hero to us at Hot Flash Daily. She tells it like it is, even when we find it hard to “go there.”

In a recent blog post about “How to Stand Up for Yourself“, Martha talks about times when we allow ourselves to be exploited:

“we stop acting on our own desires and become purely reactive instead, focused not on what we want but on what others will think, say, or do.”

She gives a very clear description of the kinds of feelings that might signal you’re in this situation, on a scale from:

Feeling: Disturbed
You easily brush aside your feelings and continue your nice, polite behavior.”

through four other feelings to the last, most extreme feeling:

Feeling: Homicidal
You daydream about thrashing the offender in a cage fight. You have knots in your stomach and can’t sleep. You’re irritable or depressed. You may occasionally lash out at loved ones in what appears to be irrational rage. Toward the offender, however, you still act “nice” and “polite.”

We’re not just posting this because we know menopause can make us feel homicidal. (Yep.)  All jokes aside, it is a time when feelings can be stronger and closer to the surface than before your hormones put you on this menopause journey. It can be difficult to decide what is real and what people often tell us is “the hormones talking.”  Martha’s blog might just help you see a situation where you could stand up for yourself and improve your energy and your life! We hope so.

What we want for you is a life where you stand up for yourself.  Where you make the best day of every day you have. And we bring you every tool we can to help make that possible.

 

How to Be Wise in Menopause

How to Be Wise in Menopause

A perspective to help you feel "yourself" during this transition.

When we are experiencing change in our lives, there is a lot of new and unknown territory, and menopause is full of change. It is a time in our lives when so much of our experience is out of our control. It can feel chaotic and overwhelming.

There are a lot of moving pieces in our outer world when we are in menopause.

So what can help us?

  • We can ground ourselves in a deep awareness of our own resourcefulness.
  • We can breathe and remember that we have the answers we need within ourselves.
  • We can make space and listen to our deep inner wellspring of wisdom.
  • We can give ourselves permission to Not Know.
  • We can treat ourselves well, with love and compassion.

I’m not saying that any of these is always easy to do. They are a place of deep trust. In my experience, they take practice. It seems like they aren’t habitual for most of us. But deep down, I know these things can help me when I remember them.

I’m hoping they will help you too.

Exercise & Breast Cancer Risk Post-Menopause

Exercise & Breast Cancer Risk Post-Menopause

Easy to judge a smoker as irresponsible for taking that cancer risk- but what about you and exercise?

Oh Canada, 300 minutes of exercise a week? Truly?  “Post menopausal women who are trying to lose weight clearly benefit from doing 300 minutes of exercise per week, compared to getting half as much exercise,” an Alberta study has found. We’re talking about moderate to vigorous aerobic exercise.

Darn it, right? So many studies have been telling us that a twenty minute session is as good as a sixty minute one, so what’s going on?

The key difference seems to be that this study was specifically focused on breast cancer risk.

“Our findings of a dose-response effect of exercise on total fat mass and several other adiposity measures including abdominal fat, especially in obese women, provide a basis for encouraging postmenopausal women to exercise at least 300 minutes/week, which is longer than the minimum recommended for cancer prevention.”

Reading about the study on The University of Calgary’s website, it is interesting to note that fat loss is “an important (though not the only) mediator of this association.” So, if we’re reading this right, that means that 300 minutes is the important number even if you are at your ideal body weight. Meaning, from now on, the goal should be 300 minutes per week.

I don’t know about you, but as I get older, I know more and more people who have been impacted by breast cancer. Women with no family history. And where I’m heading is the reality that I have a responsibility- to myself, to my husband and to my daughter- to do everything I can to be healthy. After years of hearing my mother cough and then, at the end of her life, be tethered to an oxygen tank, I have no problem wondering why anyone in her right mind would choose to smoke a cigarette. But I have never seen myself as the same kind of crazy for the eating and exercise choices that I make. Until now.

Is there really any reason NOT to start exercising or exercising more, if you are physically able?

What is it going to take? No. Seriously, what is it going to take?

Start today. Start where you are. Just get to it.

Note:  Always always seek advice from your health experts. We aim to offer you some targeting that you can discuss with your own experts. (Cause though we like to think we do, we don’t know you or your situation!)

 

Get over it.

Get over it.

I do not lie, menopause has kicked my ass.

This is the time of year we “spring forward”- move the clocks in advance of spring to give us more daylight. You know I love “new starts”, I think they are great opportunities to “get over” some of the barriers our own minds put in place. Things like “I could never” and “I’m not ready”, that keep us from being who we really know we want to be.

SO- big important thought here, [DRAMATIC PAUSE] – what is it that you feel is in your way, and what would it mean to get over it?

Here’s an example. I do not lie, menopause has kicked my ass. I have put on pounds, very easily, I might add- and they are wrapped around my middle. I am the typical cartoon menopause shape. I haven’t yet been able to lose it. I see this whole big, long, horrible diet marathon ahead and I immediately want a cheeseburger and a glass of Cabernet to get over my trauma! So here’s how I’m going to spring forward- I’m going to leap past the diet bugaboo and go to:

“I am a woman who eats to have a healthy body. I eat well, sometimes I indulge, but all in all, I am taking extremely good care of my body and my energy.”
(aka “man, I am tired of having a body that doesn’t reflect who I know I am.”)

I might add support, like weight watchers, and I will come up with a plan, but, honestly, if I get over the wall of “NO, I CAN’T STAND DIETING”, and go on to “hey, I’m pretty cool, I want to be healthy and I really need more energy, I’m going to eat for my health”, that feels a lot more do-able. I feel much less resistance. I can do that. And frankly, it ain’t like I don’t know how to lose weight. Yes, before you leap in to tell me, exercise is part of it- but for me, the food thing is the biggest factor.

What is your brick wall? What would be thrilling to leave behind? That’s the challenge of the weekend. Decide to spring forward. Life is short, make it the best you can!

p.s. If you want to make a public commitment, well, you can do it here! We are a friendly, supportive gang!

Funny or Not? Menopause Humor

Funny or Not? Menopause Humor

Hmm. Do you think this is entertaining? Funny at first glance, to be sure. But I'm over it.

This saying is from a Facebook post from Comedy 103.1, a page that posts a lot of funny things. Many of which, I laugh at and share. As of today, this menopause meme has gotten nearly 100,000 likes. I bet if I shared it on the Hot Flash Daily Facebook page, I could get a few hundred on our page, too! But I just can’t. Why? It’s the kind of menopause humor that leaves me cold.

I’m not usually a “hard ass” about humor, that’s for sure! But after many years of comments and cartoons and cliches, the whole “women and their mysterious hormonal goings-on that gives them mental illness and they act crazy” thing is a big turn-off. The notion of “she’s on the rag” or “she’s menopostal” as a way of explaining behavior or describing a woman is insulting. Yep. Maybe it’s just the linking of menstruation and menopause with mental illness. Or the notion that anything related to women starts with men! Sheesh.

I KNOW, I can’t believe I’m so sensitive!

Ridiculous. Or not? I’m curious. What’s your reaction?

AstroFlash – September

AstroFlash – September

We’re uncommonly ready to put summer behind us and get down to it, whatever our particular flavor of “it” may be.

Detox Sept. 5-28 (schedule one-day cleanses for 3, 7 or 9)
Got tissues?  Sept. 7-8
Play the odds Sept. 14
Binge-a-rama Sept. 30

September’s traditional party pooper vibe is actually welcome this year. We’re uncommonly ready to put summer behind us and get down to it, whatever our particular flavor of “it” may be.

The skies are encouraging a sober (mostly) and grounding approach to anything and everything that matters. Climb on board and ride that bandwagon! Improve your diet. Organize. Keep a proper schedule. Shore up those boundaries.

They may benefit from sandbags around the 8th, when nostalgia, regret, compassion and maybe hormones swell under the Pisces Full Moon. It has the potential to heal (it’s okay to be human, really it is) and put the past to rest. As you wring yourself out, admit how much of what’s overflowing really belongs to others. Which call for better boundaries, people!

Claim and clear your private space by the weekend of the 13/14th. Impulses to have fun and adventure surge then. So does desire. Throwing caution to the wind will be epidemic. Be sure you’re targeting what you want and not acting out someone else’s agenda. (See previous paragraph.)

Under the fun and games, we all mean business this fall. The signal comes through loud and clear as the season changes Sept. 22. The Libra New Moon of the 24th paves the way to relationship shifts coming in October. No hyperventilating. Shifts can be good. You’ve been working toward these. A late-month shake-up clears the path. Then Venus returns to her love nest of Libra and invites us to enjoys ourselves and each other. After all the clean living you’ve been doing this month, she won’t need to ask you twice.

Shenanigans for Seniors?!

Shenanigans for Seniors?!

Apparently any libido issues clear up after menopause!

Have you read about the retirement community in Florida that is the talk of the nation?

“Ten women to every man, a black market in Viagra, and a ‘thriving swingers scene’: Welcome to The Villages, Florida, where the elderly residents down Sex on the Square cocktail in ‘honor’ of woman, 68, arrested for public sex with toyboy”. So says the Daily Mail, read the full article here.

Doesn’t it sound like every Spring Break movie you never bothered to see? Now, I’m sure there are plenty of grandparents there who aren’t doing anything they wouldn’t tell their kids about- but don’t you just love knowing that somewhere out there are retirees are having orgies? I mean, I don’t see myself at an orgy- or is it in an orgy, at any age- but I like knowing that the spirit of adventure survives, at any age. In fact, one of the comments about the woman who was arrested for having public sex was that she appears to be making up for her lost youth. And that’s what’s bitchin about this story. The “you’re never too old…” theme.

I thought about filing it under “Good News”, but, well, I just couldn’t go there with this one. Still- it is very good news that at any age, you just might have more epic times ahead!

Oh- and yep, those menopausal libido issues seem to have cleared up for lots of women in this place. That’s bitchin too!

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Write for Hot Flash Daily.

Share your story? Advice? Ideas? Cartoons or videos you've created? We'd love your contribution.

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HotFlashDaily.com was created in the spirit of making every day your very best, even when you just don’t feel like it.

The site was conceived and built through the combined efforts of contributing bloggers, technicians, and impassioned women who believe the way we treat ourselves is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves.

We’re looking for true short stories for the website, and perhaps for inclusion in an e-book, from women who want to tell others about their experiences with peri-menopause, menopause, and beyond. We’re looking for experiences, ups/downs/unexpected highs and lows, sticky situations, “what I wish I’d known”, “what I’d tell my younger self”.. you name it!

Submissions should be first-person posts written in a blogging, editorial, or columnist style WITHOUT commercial links.

NOTE: Promotional, commercial articles (with links to commercial websites) will not be accepted for publication. Click here for the small print terms & conditions.

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