The old selfish is the new healthy. Keep your energy for yourself.
Talk & Travel Advisory: Oct. 1-9
Where’d My Brain Go? Oct. 6, 16, 18
Just Say No: Oct. 10
Resistance Is Futile: Oct. 23
Halloween Candy At Risk: Oct. 23-31
Who has the time to put up fake harvest tableaux and Halloween geegaws? Not you. Not unless they make you insanely happy. This month is more about cleaning than cluttering. More snapping Lego blocks together than stumbling on them when you get up to go to the bathroom during the night. More Disney princesses than vampires that actually draw blood.
Besides, life is finally feeling like it’s getting somewhere. Instead of depositing you in a minefield or flinging you into a wall, effort is now yielding … results. You don’t need a cosmic cattle prod for motivation anymore, either. As projects and situations take shape that have been in the works for months or longer, that’s carrot enough to keep applying elbow grease.
Just not on other people. Sure, you see room for improvement in your relatives, but don’t make that your job. A new chapter in all your relationships is starting mid-month. The old selfish is the new healthy. Keep your energy for yourself. Handle your side of the relationship see-saw and the other person will handle his. Eventually. His problem, not yours.
There will still be moments of crossed wires, wonky technology, traffic that makes no sense and space cadet behavior. These are constants until the talk and travel advisory lifts on the 10th, after which they fade in and out like radio signals on a road trip.
As Halloween approaches, something’s noticeably on the prowl, and not the usual spooks and ghouls and trick or treaters. Desires. Huge. Irresistible. Heavy on ones you’d usually keep on the down low. Fighting them is just not in the stars, so you may as well indulge. Tip for party-planners: Pick the weekend before Halloween if intrigue and a frisson of danger are what you want. Prefer costumes and fantasy? Schedule your do on the night itself. It has a gentle air of escapism and magic. Just keep a designated driver at hand. Or a taxi number. With the workout your elbow’s been getting all month, you’re likely not to keep track of how much you’re bending it on Halloween.