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Are You a Door Mat? Wisdom from Martha Beck

Are You a Door Mat? Wisdom from Martha Beck

Martha Beck is a hero to us at Hot Flash Daily. She tells it like it is, even when we find it hard to “go there.”

In a recent blog post about “How to Stand Up for Yourself“, Martha talks about times when we allow ourselves to be exploited:

“we stop acting on our own desires and become purely reactive instead, focused not on what we want but on what others will think, say, or do.”

She gives a very clear description of the kinds of feelings that might signal you’re in this situation, on a scale from:

Feeling: Disturbed
You easily brush aside your feelings and continue your nice, polite behavior.”

through four other feelings to the last, most extreme feeling:

Feeling: Homicidal
You daydream about thrashing the offender in a cage fight. You have knots in your stomach and can’t sleep. You’re irritable or depressed. You may occasionally lash out at loved ones in what appears to be irrational rage. Toward the offender, however, you still act “nice” and “polite.”

We’re not just posting this because we know menopause can make us feel homicidal. (Yep.)  All jokes aside, it is a time when feelings can be stronger and closer to the surface than before your hormones put you on this menopause journey. It can be difficult to decide what is real and what people often tell us is “the hormones talking.”  Martha’s blog might just help you see a situation where you could stand up for yourself and improve your energy and your life! We hope so.

What we want for you is a life where you stand up for yourself.  Where you make the best day of every day you have. And we bring you every tool we can to help make that possible.

 

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